I'm procrastinating by catching up on all that I've missed in the blogosphere. Don't worry about it.
If my lack of sleep is truly killing me the way science seems to indicate, then young married couples kill me emotionally. Maybe it's the way I was raised. Maybe it's who my parents are and how they taught me to be. Whatever the reason, I just cannot seem to figure out how in the world people are okay just getting married and resigning to the rest of their lives at such absurdly young ages.
My mom and dad were 27 and 30 respectively when they got married. Eight years and two kids later, they got divorced. They're both bitter and angry about it. They ignore it usually, and that's how my sister and I were always taught to think of my parents' relationship. Something horrendously negative.
That being said, I'm in no way against marriage. My grandparents are forty years into a living, breathing screenplay of "The Notebook". I've seen marriage done well. It happens very rarely, and I find that to be tremendously saddening, but I have seen it done.
So here's where I'm going with this. Age is not a factor. Like I said, my parents were both well into their own adult lives. Look what happened to the two of them. I also have friends whose parents got married right out of high school, and they're celebrating their twentieth anniversaries. No, the success of marriage does not at all depend on the age of the persons getting married. The success of a marriage depends on the state of mind that both of those people are in.
As demonstrated by this article, twenty-somethings are notoriously free spirits. They want to do exactly what they want, when they want to do it. They're inherently selfish. That sounds awful, but it's important to go through a selfish phase in your life. Be with people you want to be with. Do only what you want to do, and go where you want to go. If you don't take care if yourself in your twenties, you're really going to hate yourself when you're 50.
I truly believe that if you go about your own little life, love will find you if it is indeed that right course of action for you. Hell, it might find you anyway, regardless of whether or not you're a good candidate. What do I know? There's no reason for twenty-somethings- people who are supposed to be focused solely on themselves- to be doting over a husband. Seriously, in my book, if you've got anymore than a boyfriend and a dog at twenty-five, do not pass GO, do not collect $200- you're headed straight for jail. And why do that to yourself? Why put up so many boundaries and walls and fences when you're so young? Why get stuck watching the rest of your life fly by from your cozy seat inside a princess-cut platinum band?
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